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A colleague of mine recently attended a wedding of two friends. It took place in a park, in the rain. The bride fretted.

“If the wedding isn’t perfect,” she said, “people will say, ‘Well, they were too young to get married.'”

A non-sequitur but please understand: The bride was 22, the groom, only a couple of years older. In the bride’s view, her friends, her parents, maybe even a nosy neighbor, would use any excuse to question her decision.

The fact is, many of us do look at couples who tie the knot before they’re--what, 26? 28? 30?--and think either 1) they’re super religious, 2) she must be pregnant, or 3) poor dears, they must not know any better.

This piece is cross-posted from The Huffington Post.

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Dear God. Single men (and a few women) are now paying strangers to find suitable dates for them online. According to a recent article in The Washington Post, they don't have the time -- or the will -- to do it themselves.

So add relationships to the list of things that can be outsourced, along with cleaning your condo, detailing your car and buying and delivering your groceries.

This piece is cross-posted from The Huffington Post.

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The title of the facebook post doesn't tell the whole story. But it says a lot:

"Standing Up To Idiots Who Think They Can Get Away With This"

Within the last two weeks I’ve heard two young women who are, by my definition, in relationships, deny that they’re in relationships. And then spend five minutes trying to define what it is they do have with their guys.

To quote Juliet in Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, What’s in a name?

A lot, apparently.

One of these women is in college; the other is a teacher in her early 20s. Both are wanderers in an emotional/physical landscape that does not lend itself to a road map or legend.